Some conversations are too important to summarize. They have to be listened to.
State of Christian Singleness
2026 Edition
A Listening Report built from thousands of conversations with Christian singles.
Over the years, people kept sending me the same kind of message.
"I thought I was the only one."
The details were different, but the questions underneath were remarkably familiar. Why does this feel so hard? Why doesn't anyone talk about this? Why does it feel like my church doesn't understand what we're experiencing?
Eventually I realized I wasn't just hearing stories anymore. I was hearing patterns. The State of Christian Singleness is the result.
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One of the things I never expected was how many conversations would grow out of writing every day.
Over time, those conversations began reaching hundreds of thousands of Christian singles from different churches, cultures, and backgrounds. The same questions kept surfacing, and I found myself listening less for individual stories than for the patterns beginning to emerge.
This report grew out of thirteen months of those conversations.
I didn't survey people.
I listened.
What emerged wasn't one person's experience. It was a picture of the world many Christian singles are trying to navigate.
Why I Created It
One of the things I hear most often isn't just from Christian singles.
It's from the people trying to understand them.
Pastors tell me they're rethinking how they teach and talk about singleness. Church leaders write to say they're forwarding essays to their staff. Professors and seminary students reach out because they're preparing the next generation of ministry leaders.
And Christian singles constantly tell me,
"I wish my church could hear this conversation."
That's why I wrote this report. To help Christian singles feel seen—and to help pastors, church leaders, educators, counselors, parents, married friends, and anyone shaping their experience better understand the world they're navigating.